On my app, if I go to account, scroll to almost the bottom, there is a "Your Devices" section, when I select that, it goes to a scree that shows my phone, then there is a "transfer your sim" menu. I am on a physical SIM so it gives me a your device is not compatible with e-sim. Try doing this on your iphone XR and not your new phone first.
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